‘The only way to get back was to do the work. I did my work and put my life back together piece by piece.’
Last night I watched the summer preview of Fix My Life, hosted by the one and only Iyanla Vanzant. Before even watching I knew that I would gain something from it as I always seem to do when she has some input. My spirit, the nourishment that I need always seems to be satisfied after hearing her words. With her comical and sarcastic humor easing you in, allowing you to relax, you don’t see it coming. The brick wall that she sees so clearly. The defense that we put up without giving it a second thought, she points it out so matter of factly that you have no choice but to pause and think, ‘Wow, did I really do that? Did I really build up this wall around me?’
Iyanla spoke to 3 women. Women who are all tied by the bonds of family but are struggling to break free from all of the pain and hurt over the years. The goal of this workshop (as Iyanla likes to call it instead of a show) was to heal the breaks or breakdowns in this family.
The daughter, mother and grandmother scenario was tough to watch at first because it was evident right from the start that there was fractures throughout their relationships.
‘The wounds that cut us the deepest and hurt us the most are inflicted by the ones we love.’
For any mothers and daughters out there, you don’t need me to tell you that the relationships you have with each other are the most loving, magnificent and longed for. However, at the same time they can also be the most trying, difficult and tumultuous in your life as well. Iyanla brought everything to a head and really brought out the underlying heartbreak that each of the women was and is feeling. She was able to shed light into the places where they didn’t even see the dark. It was so very powerful!!
One thing that really resonated with me was the realization I had about about a few days ago and listening to Iyanla’s words last night really brought it home for me. When it comes to the personal side within me, I treat myself very differently. I know what I need to do to life a happy life and I fully believe that I am deserving. I really do. But there are some things that I just don’t feel. Knowing and believing are so important, but if you don’t feel it right inside your spirit then nothing changes. Feeling it is where the true growth lies within ourselves.
‘Bring your awareness to the table so you can start to heal. ’
Family Fixes from Iyanla
Get off your position – If you continue to hold on to your position you’re not going to open the gate for the healing that you need. Let it go!
Listen to what is being said – Don’t listen to what you are telling yourself in your brain without adult supervision.
Accept family members for who they are – Stop holding them hostage to what they did or didn’t do.
I believe at least one of these fixes is one that resonates inside all our hearts. Such powerful words to hear. My mind is still flickering back to the show last night. I am looking forward to September when Iyanla Fix My Life will be on OWN Canada! Tune in with my friends and let the life changing happen!
Very fittingly, Iyanla ended the show with the best tag line I’ve heard in awhile! ’Stay at peace and not in pieces.’
Sending light and love my friends, take care of each other.